tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post2242368279593448363..comments2024-03-25T22:38:39.934-07:00Comments on THERESA'S TALES: Sad NewsTheresa Milsteinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03477761307315565259noreply@blogger.comBlogger46125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-47396399148531571172010-06-08T06:25:48.115-07:002010-06-08T06:25:48.115-07:00MBW aka Olleymae, thank you. I did enjoy the trip...MBW aka Olleymae, thank you. I did enjoy the trip even with the sad news.Theresa Milsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03477761307315565259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-61749731925442456882010-06-08T05:21:13.872-07:002010-06-08T05:21:13.872-07:00I think it's wonderful that you're going t...I think it's wonderful that you're going to cook for the family. My heart goes out to them.<br /><br />I hope you did get to enjoy your trip, despite the sad news.MBW aka Olleymaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06311893784715159105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-10088174850368795542010-06-07T09:09:30.990-07:002010-06-07T09:09:30.990-07:00Rebecca, you're right. Cooking is the last th...Rebecca, you're right. Cooking is the last thing on a family's mind when they're grieving.Theresa Milsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03477761307315565259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-45793330998446196222010-06-07T07:28:50.789-07:002010-06-07T07:28:50.789-07:00Theresa, sending her family good thoughts, making ...Theresa, sending her family good thoughts, making a meal if you can, all of that helps. A loss of a mother and wife is so huge that our small gestures can seem trivial, but they are not. Take care and welcome home.Mollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09737883086499020291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-70078533551691457082010-06-07T07:22:16.409-07:002010-06-07T07:22:16.409-07:00Barbara, thank you. I hope when I offer help, her...Barbara, thank you. I hope when I offer help, her husband takes me up on it.<br /><br />Sheila, thanks. I was glad I found a quote that matched what I wanted to say.<br /><br />Paul C, it's true we don't know what others are going through. We often just convey the superficial.Theresa Milsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03477761307315565259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-46931689869016546272010-06-07T05:42:48.282-07:002010-06-07T05:42:48.282-07:00Yes, we often don't know about the silent stru...Yes, we often don't know about the silent struggles of others and the big hearts some people can have for others. How kind of you to try to reach out in small gestures for the family.Paul Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01836602667355512504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-22975995342863729872010-06-07T05:23:31.628-07:002010-06-07T05:23:31.628-07:00That is a wonderful quote.That is a wonderful quote.sheilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05096541201248429172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-11942224055707349212010-06-07T04:46:19.082-07:002010-06-07T04:46:19.082-07:00Hi Theresa. After a long bank holiday weekend here...Hi Theresa. After a long bank holiday weekend here I am only now catching up with my blogging friends and have just read your sad post. I am so sorry to hear about your friend Lisa and also sorry that you had to learn of her death while so far away from home in Paris.<br /><br />But I am a great believer in the Universe or God or whatever organising things how they should be. And maybe you were spared knowing just how ill she was before you left the US, allowing you to enjoy your time in Europe - until you heard anyway.<br /><br />The other thing that I would say is that don't underestimate the power of practical help to those who are lost and grieving. Meals and shopping etc. help hugely and will be remembered for a long time!<br /><br />A big hug to you.<br /><br />BarbaraBarbara Scullyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14311532447861613731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-74350925158855523932010-06-07T02:29:25.904-07:002010-06-07T02:29:25.904-07:00Amanda, I just keep thinking of the children, and ...Amanda, I just keep thinking of the children, and how they have to go on without their mother.<br /><br />Kenzie, I'm so sorry to hear about the death of your good friend. You are so right - the unexpected deaths are the worst.<br /><br />Tahereh, thanks for the nice words. I plan to write a happier and trip-related post today.<br /><br />Alesa, thank you for such a poignant comment.Theresa Milsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03477761307315565259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-12741444044935339482010-06-06T23:54:45.255-07:002010-06-06T23:54:45.255-07:00Welcome back!
Life may be fleeting, and on the re...Welcome back!<br /><br />Life may be fleeting, and on the relative scale of things, we come and go like flashes of light piercing the leafy canopy of trees swaying in the breeze. <br />My condolences on the loss of your friend. But you've reflected some of her light into the world, and that light is also present in all those she loved; and from the sound of it they were many of those.<br /><br />Making food is no little thing.. Sure it's no cure all, but caring for others, one way or another, and having other appreciate both the caring and one another, that is a form love. <br />Love isn't a cure all either, but it does soothe even the most grievous wounds.Avohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15808959359850145003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-18594406633140660532010-06-06T22:52:44.517-07:002010-06-06T22:52:44.517-07:00oh Theresa, I am so so sorry for your loss. i can&...oh Theresa, I am so so sorry for your loss. i can't even fathom what you must be feeling. i hope the days get easier though -- the shock of anyone passing is a lot to stomach.<br /><br />i'm so happy you're back though! the blogosphere was lonely without you.<br /><br />can't wait to hear about your trip! <333Taherehhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03111022596822176769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-35811674728030899032010-06-06T21:54:14.469-07:002010-06-06T21:54:14.469-07:00This feeling really hit home. A good friend of min...This feeling really hit home. A good friend of mine just died yesterday.. He was 18. Its so much more heartbreaking when it comes as such a shock.Kenziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12291380501022452794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-53732624560044224002010-06-06T20:00:16.072-07:002010-06-06T20:00:16.072-07:00How awful. I feel so bad for her family. I cannot ...How awful. I feel so bad for her family. I cannot imagine losing my mother... I don't think I'd want to live any longer.<br /><br />Making meals for the family sounds like a wonderful way to help! That should mean so much to them!<br /><br />Welcome back, anyway!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-4544234694191653042010-06-06T18:48:40.276-07:002010-06-06T18:48:40.276-07:00Roland, "omniscient" - I'm certainly...Roland, "omniscient" - I'm certainly not that. Thanks for putting it in perspective.<br /><br />I really appreciated your link. Thanks for sharing it with me. And thank you for your nice words.<br /><br />Marie, thank you. It was lousy to get the news that way.Theresa Milsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03477761307315565259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-55144705323719942352010-06-06T15:47:20.548-07:002010-06-06T15:47:20.548-07:00Theresa,
So sorry to hear of the loss of you frien...Theresa,<br />So sorry to hear of the loss of you friend. She sounded like a lovely woman, mother, and friend. I can't imagine what it must of felt like to receive that news while you were away when you already felt helpless enough. I hope things get better for the family and yours as well. You sound like you have a generous heart!Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12648246490578364526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-83955567270947025152010-06-06T12:12:55.703-07:002010-06-06T12:12:55.703-07:00Lydia is right. We cannot beat ourselves up for no...Lydia is right. We cannot beat ourselves up for not being omniscient. <br /><br />And I think moments like these are important for us for the exact reason you point out : we pass wounded heroes each day, and we are unaware of both their wounds and their heroic spirits.<br /><br />We should tread soft and loving among our fellow strugglers. Plato's dictum long ago became the first of the eight rules I live by : <br /><br />http://rolandyeomans.blogspot.com/2010/03/rolands-8-simple-rules.html<br /><br />You are a special person for caring so. My heart and prayers will be with you as you travel abroad. Glad I know you, RolandRoland D. Yeomanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00338410857990551352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-67124550496547736552010-06-06T12:03:25.343-07:002010-06-06T12:03:25.343-07:00Lindsay, it is awful when people are taken too soo...Lindsay, it is awful when people are taken too soon. A parent should die before their children. And a parent shouldn't die before their children are grown.<br /><br />Creepy Query Girl, thank you for the nice words. It doesn't make any sense.<br /><br />Hampshireflyer, I hope she found peace at the end. I can't imagine how it must've been for her.Theresa Milsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03477761307315565259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-4554056896086794282010-06-06T12:00:29.720-07:002010-06-06T12:00:29.720-07:00I'm so sorry, Theresa. I suppose the very fact...I'm so sorry, Theresa. I suppose the very fact that people carried on around her gave her consolation...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-15759560892498784442010-06-06T11:41:22.133-07:002010-06-06T11:41:22.133-07:00Ugh, that is so so sad. I know what you mean abou...Ugh, that is so so sad. I know what you mean about feeling helpless and angry that you couldn't have been there for her. It's hard to think about those whose deaths make no sense and my heart goes out to that poor family. I'm sorry you got this terrible news!Creepy Query Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18115161057496086972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-9822030378434124972010-06-06T11:16:12.442-07:002010-06-06T11:16:12.442-07:00Sorry to hear the sad news Theresa. Your post make...Sorry to hear the sad news Theresa. Your post makes Lisa sound like an amazing person. It is awful when good people are taken too soon.Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04313619484424363895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-32726954017100321882010-06-06T10:38:51.203-07:002010-06-06T10:38:51.203-07:00Talli, it is worse to hear bad news when I'm a...Talli, it is worse to hear bad news when I'm away. Then I can't participate or help when everyone gets together.<br /><br />Shelley, your words are very kind.<br /><br />Helen, if I learn anything from this, it will be to have more patience and be more thoughtful, like her.Theresa Milsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03477761307315565259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-53889521482075752732010-06-06T10:36:50.546-07:002010-06-06T10:36:50.546-07:00Aubrie, thanks. My husband is a scientist who has...Aubrie, thanks. My husband is a scientist who has worked on cancer, which always makes me proud to say. But it's frustrating that there isn't a better cure.<br /><br />Joanne, I'm glad you appreciated the tribute.<br /><br />Judy, thank you for putting it in perspective.<br /><br />Lydia, I wonder if her family thought I'd heard through my son and didn't say anything. That saddens me a little. I appreciate your comment.Theresa Milsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03477761307315565259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-10533178705059486282010-06-06T09:50:30.640-07:002010-06-06T09:50:30.640-07:00This was a wonderful post that says so much about ...This was a wonderful post that says so much about your friend and you. <br /><br />Things like this can be life-changing. Perhaps it will be for you.<br /><br /><a href="http://straightfromhel.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Straight From Hel</a>Helen Gingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09794759602654727110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-71233472691006068692010-06-06T09:15:15.917-07:002010-06-06T09:15:15.917-07:00I am so sorry for your loss. She sounds like she ...I am so sorry for your loss. She sounds like she was a beautiful person, and you are so kind to feel such compassion for the family and offer to bring them food. I will keep her family in my prayers.Shelley Slyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07981620646634240160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3801207462566510326.post-80460006148252494382010-06-06T08:37:19.729-07:002010-06-06T08:37:19.729-07:00What sad news to learn while you're away. Some...What sad news to learn while you're away. Sometimes it feels even worse to get bad news so far from home. I'm so sorry to hear about your friend - she sounds like a wonderful woman. <br /><br />Secondly, welcome home. I missed you! :) I hope you had a good trip!Talli Rolandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04780882465745107715noreply@blogger.com